I was that person who was able to find the one bad, no matter how big or small it was. I look back and I cringe at the way that I used to think in every situation. This is coming from someone who used to be the most negative person I ever knew in my life. You can absolutely get rid of a negative mindset. I understand that you can’t completely get rid of negative thoughts in your life altogether, but you can certainly get rid of a lot of them. Through this you can learn that being positive in a negative situation comes easily and without ignoring the negative. It’s about not even saying them, not even expressing that negative energy on others, not allowing that in your mind or in your body. It’s not about being positive all the time, it’s about letting go of the negative thoughts in the first place. You can’t make up for the negativity that you just shared.Ī lot of people, myself included in the past, used to believe that you are a positive person if you always have something good to say even after a negative comment. The second you say something positive doesn’t cancel out the negative that you just said. You’re still complaining, you’re still gossiping about someone. Maybe you’re talking about someone else and say “Ugh, so-and-so is so annoying.”īut then follow it up with “Oh, but she’s really nice when she does this.” They think it’s okay to complain so long as they have something positive to say after. People convince themselves that being positive all the time is good and then use being positive as an excuse to complain. You need to recognize when being positive all the time begins to flip and begins to start hurting you and affecting you in a negative way. The short answer is that you complain a lot, talk badly to yourself or others and see the bad before you see the god. She did consider herself a positive person though, which I want to encourage people to continue doing. My whole point of that story was that yes, I lost a friend over being negative because she couldn’t see that she was being negative. Sometimes that can be really difficult and hard and if they can’t understand your boundaries and if they can’t understand why it’s important for you, why you’re changing, then it’s really hard to explain. You don’t want someone counterbalancing all of your hard work. You can’t afford to have people in your life who are bringing you down when you’re working so hard to bring yourself up. Some people have to leave your life if they’re not in the same space that you are or if they’re not willing accept that you need to change.īeing around negative people hurts you. Unfortunately, some of those people I’m not friends with anymore, which was really difficult and a hard realization. I have learned this from experience and I have had friends in the past who have used being positive as being an excuse. I know that seems weird to say that being positive can actually be negative and hurt you, but it’s true. Unfortunately, being positive has a negative side. What is complaining vs getting things off of your chest.In this episode, I break down how being positive all the time actually has negative side effects.
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